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Strategies for dealing with a hostile ex in a divorce

California couples who decide to proceed with a divorce usually desire an amicable resolution. While this is ideal, it is not always possible, particularly when one of the spouses is hostile and willing to create more conflict. However, there are some things a spouse can do to deal with the situation and prevent it from escalating.

Because a hostile ex can also be volatile, it is important to attempt to get all communication and agreements in writing. This can prevent situations where the ex-spouse will simply deny ever consenting to the agreement. In some cases, the written communication can turn into threatening or harassing messages. If this happens, a temporary restraining order can be acquired to protect the safety of the kids.

A hostile ex can also be difficult when revealing assets in preparation for the divorce settlement process. One way to combat this is by gathering as much paperwork related to financial items as possible early on in the process. If possible, the gathering of pay stubs, account statements, tax returns and other documents should start even before the couple files for divorce.

Finally, it is important to leave the children out of the conflict. A hostile ex might try to use the children to manipulate emotionally; however, protecting the children's emotional health should be a priority. It might also be a good option to seek therapy for the kids.

The assistance of a lawyer with family law experience might also be valuable when dealing with a hostile ex. A lawyer might explain what to expect from an ex and what legal tactics could be used to counter them.

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