When marriages break down and end in divorce, it’s common for the split to be adversarial. Many California divorces are framed as a debate between who ‘won” and ‘lost” the division of property. But when a divorce devolves into a battle, more often than not both sides lose. However, it is possible to prevent a divorce turning into a war by working together. Here are a few tips that can help.

First, consider the history of your marriage. The things that lead to conflict during your marriage may also cause issues during your divorce. You may be able to avoid conflicts by navigating sensitive issues carefully.

Second, keep your eyes open for conflict. If things appear to be escalating, you are more likely to be able to avoid it if you are paying attention. If you are listening carefully and paying attention to your voice and tone, you may be able to head trouble off early.

If you find yourself getting angry, you may be best served by taking a break instead of engaging in an argument. If you avoid your impulse to react, you can have the opportunity to proceed thoughtfully. Taking a break and avoiding a fight could make things much easier in the end.

These tips might be helpful to avoid making a divorce turn ugly. An attorney experienced in family law may also be able to help keep things civil. An attorney might be able to help by keeping the divorce process streamlined and operate as a buffer when necessary. In cases where a civil agreement can’t be reached, an attorney with experience in family law may be able to resolve things at a contested hearing.